Once you've been casually dating someone for a few months, it's normal to start feeling like you'd like to establish some sort of exclusivity.
After all, if you really don't want to see anyone else, and the thought of your partner seeing someone else makes your skin crawl, it's definitely worth mentioning. But how long should you date before talking about exclusivity? Well, every couple — and situation — is different, but experts agree that you shouldn't rush into that discussion.
If exclusively dating this one person is something that's important to you know that there isn't an exact timeline for when you should have that talk. Chlipaladating and relationships expert, tells Elite Daily.
How to have the "exclusive" relationship talk (even when it's really, really scary)
Chlipala recommends waiting at least a couple months. You need time to put your date's behaviors into a broader context. You can also avoid the ' crash and burn ' which often happens between the four-to six-week mark.
Chlipala isn't the only one who suggests waiting a few months to define the relationship. And while there's nothing wrong with waiting a bit to actually DTR, Irene Fehr, sex and intimacy coachrecommends being upfront from the very beginning about where you would like to be eventually. If you don't want to waste any time and you want to be on the same as your date, be honest.
Now, that's not to say that you need to DTR on the first date. Quite the contrary, take your time! But being on the same about where you want to be can be helpful, so everyone can manage their expectations accordingly.
That said, telling the person you've been seeing that you want to be exclusive should also include a talk about what "exclusive" means for both of you. Does it include sex? Does exclusivity include getting off dating apps and stopping online conversations?
It's important to be clear to set expectations so that your potential partner can know what they're agreeing to and can also deliver on their promise. If you want to be exclusive with someone, that's great! It's awesome that you've found someone special and only want to be with them.
Here’s how long you should date before talking about exclusivity
If the two of you have been dating for several months, it's probably an ideal time to bring it up. Remember: You deserve to get what you want out of a relationship — exclusivity and all — but your partner's not going to know what you want until you tell them.
By Korey Lane.